Not knowing what to say to your partner after an argument is pretty normal.
There is usually an elephant in the room after an argument. The tension leaves couples unable to apologise after they have realised their wrongs in the argument. Who is going to break the ice? Who will apologise first?
Couples who fail to have an open communication with each other, face this problem frequently. Nevertheless, being honest about your mistake and accepting it is the first step towards seeking forgiveness from your partner.
Apologising may only be some words, but they hold a greater meaning to it. Regain, an online relationship therapy platform suggests these ways to apologise to your partner if you’ve hit the rock:
Start by telling them you owe them an apology
Start by letting your partner know that you owe them this genuine apology. That’s important because it validates their feelings. It also shows that you understand your responsibility as a partner in the relationship and want to make them feel heard and feel understood.
Acknowledge that there is no excuse for what you have done or said
Giving excuses is never helpful. In fact, if you are taking a lot of time to justify your actions, it probably means that you are offering an empty apology. Avoid making excuses, but don’t stop there. Go on to say plainly that there truly is no reason good enough to make what you did okay.
Tell them that they and the relationship are important to you
When you say hurtful things or careless words to your partner, they might feel like you are not prioritising their feelings or wellbeing. They need to know that you still consider them an important part of your life. Show them that their feelings matter by telling them how important they are to you. Maybe even try having a date night to show that you care.
Hug it out
Sometimes there is nothing more healing for a damaged relationship than physical touch. A gentle hug may do wonders and can help to express regret and the want to repair things. Always ask first in this situation, though, so you can be sure he is ready to accept a physical expression of your love. Instead of leading with this request, saving it until near the end of the apology may help him feel more willing to give it.
Also see: Things you should never apologise for in a relationship
