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“Keep your standards high” – Lady Zamar gives women dating advice, receives backlash

by Jade Rhode
lady zamar picture: instagram / @lady_zamar

Twitter trolls have once again dragged Lady Zamar, this time after the singer provided dating advice for women.

Real name Yamikani Janet Banda, Lady Zamar has been receiving online backlash since allegedly accusing her ex Jabulani ‘Sjava’ Hadebe of sexual abuse.

The singer wrote a lengthy tweet sharing her opinion about dating while also giving advice.

She wrote, “Men date according to how they see themselves… this is why they hardly ever settle for just any woman who loves them no matter how sexy or beautiful. However, women tend to settle and date lower than they see themselves, usually deciding to get married to men who love them and treat them well even though that man is below their standards in many important and significant ways.

“Thus, when a man cheats, who is substandard, it’s so much more insulting and hurtful and a lot of women will stay in such relationships because by being with that below average man they tend to lose sight of their true sense of self, worth and value, be it social or otherwise. (Weird thing is that women subconsciously start feeling like they look like their bf/husbands because of the sexual element of dating or marriage.)”

The Collide songstress then shared that her advice to women would be to date and marry as men do. “Keep your standards high and don’t listen when people (other men vying for a chance with you) tell you that you’ll never find someone like that because trust me… you will! and as easily as they do.”

She also stated, “When a woman raises her standards she stops giving trashy, broken men a chance to her body…this will exponentially lower the “her body count” our generation is obsessing over chat and these below standard men will no longer have any leverage to lower a woman’s value in the dating and marriage arena by way of shaming women into lowering their standards even more.”

men date according to how they see themselves… this is why they hardly ever settle for just any woman who loves them no matter how sexy or beautiful.

however, women tend to settle and date lower than they see themselves, usually deciding to get married to men who love them and…

— Lady Zamar (@Lady_Zamar) June 19, 2023

Of course, tweeps commented on what Lady Zamar had to say. The singer also responded to most of the tweets.

you and the many random people who talk about smack are the problem on this app

— Lady Zamar (@Lady_Zamar) June 19, 2023

forget what exactly? you and i don’t kopana anywhere in terms of mentality so your opinion of whatever you’re mentally struggling with has nothing to do with me but rather go deal with your egotistical over valuing of yourself and your place in my life.

— Lady Zamar (@Lady_Zamar) June 19, 2023

that’s just something you lot made up here…

— Lady Zamar (@Lady_Zamar) June 19, 2023

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